Last time we spoke it was about puzzle pieces and their role in the larger puzzle that creates the image. Today I want to talk to about those puzzle pieces shaping their own edges and deciding how they fit into the puzzle. Every piece internally has a different method of fitting, yet externally other pieces can only fit things into a very specific categories, so I want to explore those categories.
The most relatable category I would imagine to be the jagged type of fit, where an ebb and flow must be forced upon the piece to influence their decisions and their decisions then taking a life of their own in an almost spiteful and angry way towards any piece around them. This piece may complain at work or home. Hearing about how their fit isn’t the best possible fit for them, and how it will never be because it is not allowed. Variations of such phrases keep this piece’s edges so jagged that their presence can feel prickly to be around.
The second most relatable category I would say is the exact opposite of the jagged approach, I would call this a ghost, a piece whose barely even able to be seen in the puzzle, if one reached out for their edges to find out if this piece even exist it would be tough to find anything to latch onto, unless a trust has already been formed in a way that is accepting of this type of piece. So much can be said about this category, no piece can know anything that isn’t given freely. I feel a majority of pieces fall into this category in some way. Hiding in plain sight I imagine this piece’s edges to be that of a softer rounded edges that make it pleasant but also confusing to be around.
The third category I want introduce here is similar and different to the other two, I would say this third category has the capability to be both categories above, and neither at the same time. I would define this category as that of the hidden in plain sight. Fitting in regardless of the surroundings even at the cost of their own edges. These pieces may have carved themselves out a perfect life on the surface, or a life that to others looks perfect until something cracks. Every piece has its own form of vulnerability that must be addressed, and moments of weakness exist for all pieces, this piece might have fewer of them though that are addressed directly, yet they are there. Small phrases in passing might make others confused when talking to a piece like this, because they may say things like, “It’s okay I know my place.” If this isn’t said out loud it might be said internally this type of communication can lock this type of piece into a role, something that may be wanted or not wanted depending upon the piece but is a constraint either way.
Constraints are damaging to all categories, the constraints create categories, and categories may create constraints. I have found that these pieces restrain themselves to these arbitrary constraints without ever realizing that they belong to multiple different categories.
More about puzzle pieces soon.
A little story about why I wrote this now. I relate to what I wrote, obviously anyone writing should relate to what they are writing but specifically the relation is very important here. I restrain myself just like the pieces I talk about, even though I can see what part of these categories I fill and how I have been constrained and how I built constraints. Yet I still restrain myself to the comfy box that is these categories. In the best possible example I can give, there are at the least six bloggers on WordPress that I follow that send this very same message in a different fashion than I do, but it is the same message. What I say does not diminish their words, and what they say does not diminish my own, yet I feel like it does. The hunt for uniqueness or as John Nash in A Beautiful Mind put it, “Original Idea” is a constraint that I put on myself as a child. This is a admirable goal, yet when that idea needs to be so unique that it consumes the ability to do anything, it becomes a constraint not a goal. Today I wrote this as a hope to let that go, because while I might have a different way of communicating, or I might say the exact same thing as someone else. I want to cognitively understand that it is alright to say the exact same thing, the exact same way, because the message sent or the skill gained might need that type of repetitive nature.
Thanks for taking your time out to read this. What puzzle piece do you see yourself as? Do you have a different category that you would like to see wrote about? Or do you have an idea for things that you would like covered? Let me know.